Chapter 25 of the book
Self-Help Stuff That Works by Adam Khan:
How to Improve
Your Self-Esteem
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SELF-ESTEEM IS SELF-WORTH or self-value. So to increase your self-esteem,
increase your worth or value. A lot of people would interpret that to mean
“change the way you think about your worth or value.” But I mean
change what you do in order to make yourself worth more — to yourself and
others. Make yourself worth more in reality, not just in your mind.
How? Here are four ways to go about it:
- Gain more ability. If you are a manager, you could take classes or
read books to increase your ability to manage. If you live in fear of physical
harm, you could take a self-defense class. Become more able to do what needs to
be done.
- Become more honest. Every person has been dishonest. And you know
it feels bad. It doesn’t make us feel good about ourselves. Every effort
you make, no matter how small, to become more honest will make you worth more
to yourself. It will increase your personal pride in a healthy way.
- Do something worthwhile. Are you doing something worthwhile? That
depends on what I mean by “worthwhile,” doesn’t it? No! It
depends on what you consider worthwhile. In order to feel self-worth, you need
to know you’re doing something worthwhile. Otherwise, your self-worth
would be a sham. So spend some time wondering what that worthwhile task might
be for you. It is a worthwhile pursuit to find a worthwhile pursuit!
- Acknowledge people. Try to give three good acknowledgments a day.
It’s a whole new way of life. And it will increase your self-esteem.
All four of these things improve your value and worth, to yourself and other
people. And that’s what self-esteem is all about.
To increase your own self-esteem:
Gain more ability, become more honest, do something worthwhile, and
acknowledge people.
In some cases, a feeling of certainty can help. But there are many more
circumstances where it is better to feel uncertain. Strange but true.
Blind Spots
When some people get smacked around by life, they give in and let life run
them over. But some people have a fighting spirit. What's the difference
between these two and why does it make a difference? Find out here.
Fighting Spirit
Learn how to prevent yourself from falling into the common traps we are all
prone to because of the structure of the human brain:
Thoughtical Illusions
Would you like to stand as a pillar of strength during difficult times?
There is a way. It takes some discipline but it is very simple.
Pillar of Strength
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